Mom Guilt is something that all moms would face, sooner or later. As in my previous post I spoke about the Temper Tantrums, even we (moms) would have some kind of outburst when we reach a tipping point. Read along, quit having mom guilt.
So, I thought I was doing a good job and hiding my feelings from kids but inside I knew I was going downhill and all my hidden feeling were taking a toll on me. I, at a point, felt I was losing connection with kids. It might be a lack of sleep or some changes that I made.
I had no idea about what was that that made me feel anxious and feel guilty.
Here are few ways that I could figure out over time:
Quit having Mom Guilt.
Have a comment with kids:
Off lately, having a comment with kids worked wonders. In any given situation having a conversation with a comment was both ways. Whereas, while I ask a question, ‘Why did you do this, where did you go’ these became a single-way conversation. Not having much scope to have much to talk about.
And if you choose to have a comment with your kids, they would more likely to interact with you. Not having to think, what you would say. Having more conversations with kids would result in fading of the mom’s guilt.
Get off the phone!
Due to the pandemic, we moms have double the work that needs to be done. Be it house chores or getting up the house in order or the kid’s school works. We are on our toes. With such busy days, reaching out to phone is a rare thing.
Once kids are up for a nap, sometimes we do feel is sit on the couch and look at the phone. But one particle thing, if we have our phone, we would miss doing these small tasks. Instead, get off the phone and lock up those small tasks before kids wake up. This would not make you feel mom’s guilt of not doing your tasks.
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Have a self-care routine for yourself. In my post, Happy mom makes happy kids, I have talked about the same. How a happy mom would make happy kids. Kids look up to you are a Wonder Women and you cannot give them 100% when you don’t take care of yourself.
Having some self-care time for yourself is mandatory. This would help you to quit having mom guilt. And mind you! Selfcare not necessarily is your me-time. Having a passion and working on it can be considered as a me-time.
Have 1:1 with each child:
If you have 2 or more kids, then you know exactly how important it is to have equal importance and attention to each child. So, I have come up with a hack of having one child talking while the other and I listen up.
I would let them decide on what they want to talk about, what they want to show, while the other has to listen and wait up until it’s their turn.
Have your me-time:
As I said sometimes having self-care time is not equal to having me-time. Make your me-time for something that you love and passionate about. Be it painting, be it working out, be it blogging (as in my case)
But as a mom, we would make sure that kids are ok with it. And while you are busy with your me-time, you would want to make sure that kids are happy and playing. This would not make for have the mom guilt for not spending time with kids. Although we spend just a little time on ourselves, we are moms, anything apart from kids and home would sometimes make us have the mom guilt.
This post is a part of BlogChattera2z challenge and CauseAChatter hosted by BlogChatter
If you wish to read my other a2z blog posts:
A: Appetite Ups and Downs for Toddlers.
B: Because, I don’t take any crap I am a Mean Mom and proud of it.
C: Cook new food and Tips to make your child eat.
D: Dear Mommy. A letter from a child.
E: Easy DIY face pack for moms, to the rescue.
F: Five favorite self-care things that I do.
G: Guide for new moms on multi-tasking.
H: Happy mom makes happy kids.
I: I am a better mom for two than one.
J: Just not me-time, we sometimes need help too.
L: Laziness and lack of motivation in kids?!
N: Note To Self. – Motherhood Edition.
O: Oh, God! I Need Help! – Motherhood Edition.
P: Parenting tip: Ways to handle Temper Tantrums in Toddlers
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Harjeet KaurApril 20, 2021 at 8:23 am
Mom guilt is a modern-day phenomenon as moms have quality time compared to the quantity we used to have. Mom guilt should not be there as kids need full attention.You have shared excellent tips for the same.
Swati MathurApril 20, 2021 at 9:53 am
I do face this guilt. As after finishing my house chores.. I start working on my trainings or writing that leaves me with very little time with kids. But I am going to follow all your tips to feel better.
DeepikaApril 20, 2021 at 12:14 pm
Having mom guilt is common but we need to rise above it. Your post clearly brings out all the points.
Roshan RadhakrishnanApril 20, 2021 at 3:51 pm
I like that you raised the point about having one onr one time with each child. That matters since the relationship will be different especially as they grow.
RomaApril 20, 2021 at 3:53 pm
Perfect pick for Q buddy. I am taking inspiration from you for getting rid of it but honestly it does creep in at times
PraGunApril 20, 2021 at 4:31 pm
Even after mom’s being everything and playing all the roles, she can still get gripped with mom’s guilt. I myself face this guilt many times but try and pep up myself. Me time is the best way for me.
VarshApril 20, 2021 at 4:35 pm
Mom guilt is real and affects most of us. Best way to deal with it is to involve kids in conversations related to them. Good idea about 1:1 with them. We plan fun dates together and just do silly things!
Surbhi PrapannaApril 20, 2021 at 4:38 pm
Yes mom guilt is so common and we all suffer from this time to time. I feel having a one on one time with your kids can help a lot to overcome this.
Ruchi VermaApril 20, 2021 at 6:26 pm
There are so many incidents and scenario when mom guilt make me feel restless. It’s so common for every mom I suppose.
Navita BhatiaApril 20, 2021 at 9:11 pm
Parenthood is like a roller coaster ride. Sometimes you get in your high spirits looking at how well you are managing kids and everything simultaneously. On the other hand, there are times when you feel guilty about not being able to do enough. Great tips from you to overcome those guilts.
Aditi KapurApril 21, 2021 at 5:08 am
I know moms feel guilt while having a me-time. Children start taking mothers for granted and the problem begins.
Sindhu Vinod NarayanApril 21, 2021 at 10:10 am
Some lovely tips listed here. I might have to implement some from your suggestions
Chinmayee Gayatree SahuApril 21, 2021 at 4:30 pm
Very valid points. Mom guilt should never be there. A happy mom can guarantee happiness to others.
JyotiApril 21, 2021 at 8:50 pm
Yes mom guilt is very common but we need to take care of ourselves as happy mom can have happy kids .
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